Or if it could be a Sunday like yesterday! Generally, I'm not a big fan of Sunday because I'm thinking too much about what needs to get done before the week starts or dreading what's to come on Monday. Yesterday was a great exception to that.
We started the day out with a nice jog (jog may be a bit optimistic... maybe I should say walk) and then went downtown to the Arts Festival. We walked around for a bit and then had a couple beers (and a little buzz) by one of the music stages. We even got to take a little nap once we got home.
To top it all off we had a nice (albeit very short) talk about what we're going to do. It pretty much started because there are days when I still insist on talking about what it will be like when I'm pregnant or what we'll buy/do when we have a baby. DH mentioned that we don't know if that will ever happen and that he was warming to the idea of adoption. That gave me the chance to get some things off my chest and express some of my reservations about using a donor (ie - the day he said "but then we don't have to tell anyone" - I'm not going to avoid adoption just so that we can keep our infertility a secret) . He actually said we probably would tell friends - that kind of shocked me. I'm still not quite sure how our families would handle it and I worry that it's selfish to want to experience pregnancy that much.
He also mentioned embryo adoption again. A couple months ago this was one of my top options, but the way embryos can be treated as children bothers me a bit. I totally understand why couples donating their embryos would want some control over their potential family, and any embryo DH and I might be lucky enough to create would be a little potential baby to me. I just wonder about what direction this will take. Could this trend lead to new arguments against the right to choose? What could it mean for fertility treatments? If embryos are considered children, I'm afraid there might be limits placed on the number of eggs that could be fertilized during an IVF cycle or restrictions placed on FETs, DE, DS, etc...
Hmmmm.... I seem to have gotten a bit off topic.
Anyway, it was a nice day :-)
{eight year well child}
8 years ago
3 comments:
I am glad you had a good weekend, and you and your DH are discussing your options.
I'm so glad to hear you had a nice weekend. We all need those now and then! Best of luck with your decision about what's next. I will be praying for peace and guidance for you and your H!
I've said it before, and I'll say it again (and again, and again, and again!). It is 100% NOT selfish for you to want to experience pregnancy. It's only normal. Your feelings a completely normal and you should not worry one bit about that.
To me, donor embryo is such a fantastic option to be able to take advantage of, and was on our short list of options for "plan B." And while some people and agencies do embryo adoption, complete with the home study, case worker and referals, a lot of clinics offer just a straight up donor embryo program without all of the background checks, etc. It all depends who you go through.
Anyway, I'm so glad to hear that you were able to talk a bit about things with your husband and that you were able to have such a great weekend! It sounds like a lot of fun and I almost wish we were in town to take part in it!
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