Sunday, December 13, 2009

Not willing to accept where we are

I've spent a lot of the last week trying to figure out what our next step will be. I want to try again. I think that I'll be able to convince DH to try another time since we have one more try covered by insurance.

DH wants to hear what the RE has to say at our WTF before we decide. I scheduled it for after Christmas thinking it would be nice not to think about it the few days before, but now I wish it was over with. I can't see him saying much different than the RE we talked to the day we were supposed to have the transfer.

It didn't sound like they'd keep us from trying again - the RE told me to take inventory of my leftover meds so we could use them for another cycle. He did make it clear that he didn't think we'd have a very different outcome. He also doesn't think it will make a difference if we use a fresh or frozen sample (makes sense - since they said it didn't matter before we started this cycle). The fact that all the embryos arrested at the same time, points to a bigger issue that he doesn't seem to think we'll be able to work around.

I am having trouble understanding how there is no fix to this. We have the ingredients -- that was supposed to be the hard part. DH seems to be ready to move on to the next option. I'm not. Hell, I don't even know what options I can be ok with. I was starting to come around to the donor idea and now I feel like I'm starting all over. It's not any easier this time through either. We were so close.

5 comments:

AmandaM said...

I'm so sorry. ::hugs::

I'll be sending tons of T&P your way.

Amy said...

I'm really sorry hun. I know I can't say the right words to make you feel better but I am thinking about you and praying for you. ((HUGS))

Anonymous said...

I’m so sorry for all that you are going through right now. I know how devastating it was to have our first IVF cancelled before we got to retrieval, and even knowing that, I can only imagine the pain that you are dealing with at this point. It hurts so much to get so close to what you want, only to have it taken away from you. You are strong and you will make it through this, that much I know. Please try to enjoy the holidays and let them be a welcome distraction to everything else that is going on in your life. I am thinking of you.

Jessica said...

I am so sorry about everything you have been going through. It must be so frustrating that they don't have any answers why?? Thinking of you!!

Kristen said...

(((hugs)))